Job Interviewing and Dating

Job Interviewing and Dating

It doesn’t matter how old you are, how much experience you have, or your level of education…interviewing is stressful.

To compound that stress in the fact that it’s often not the best-qualified candidate who gets the job, but rather the candidate who best navigates the interview process.

Don’t believe me? Here’s a scenario: You go on two dates. The first, with someone who hardly speaks at all, and when he/she does, it’s to say something inappropriate or irrelevant.

I am reminded of a date I went on a few years ago with someone who told me his only hobby was mowing the grass. Hard to keep that conversation moving along.

Date number two: You engage in a lively, enjoyable discussion about things that are important to you. This person is interested in you and shares things that make you interested in him/her.

So the question is: Which one are you most likely to go on a second date with? Yeah, I thought so.

## Interviewing IS Dating.

I purposely used the analogy of dating, because job interviewing is much like a date. The employer chooses the candidates that, on paper, seem the most qualified (let’s call this your profile).

During the initial interview (the first date), the employer further eliminates the candidates that don’t fit and begins to rank those who meet the qualifications.

There are likely to be additional interviews (dates) leading up to the selection of the winning candidate (which is a bit like marriage).

The next important question is: How can I become the winning candidate?

Do Your Homework.

The more you know about the organization you’re interviewing with, the more you will be able to customize your answers to be in concert with the organization’s vision, mission, and goals.

Here’s an analogy: If you sell cars and I tell you that the most important thing to me is an energy-efficient, economical car, you will get nowhere trying to sell me a luxury gas hog.

If the company you’re interviewing with is focused on environmental consciousness and clean energy, you would do well to use some examples that are focused on those issues.

But Still be Yourself.

I am not suggesting that you become someone you’re not just to get the job, but rather to highlight the aspects of yourself that are most relevant to the company you’re dealing with.

Using the previous example, if you spend all of your free time dumping garbage alongside the road– except, of course, for the time you spend incinerating paint cans and batteries– then you shouldn’t be applying to that particular organization in the first place.

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